In almost every movie there are debby downers, party poopers, doubters, naysayers, or as I like to say basics.
Definition of a Basic:
Something or someone that is uninteresting, vapid, or boring
example: Don't come this party is basic.
(urbandictionary)
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As I was saying these basic people will always have something to eyeroll or say about something that is different or not considered "cool", here are tips on how to not give a bother about their simple minded views.
1. Keep Doing Your Thang
Nothing irks a nay-sayer more than someone that will not conform to their basic ways. Matter of fact, don't let them even have the slightest bit of satisfaction... Keep Doing You! So what if you want to wear polka dots with stripes or you like walking in the rain as long as your being true to yourself, not harming yourself or hurting others, and it comes from a positive place do it!
2. Don't Trip
To be honest if my whole class didn't like a certain outfit I had on, I wouldn't let it get to me because their validation is just not that important to me. (Willow couldn't have said it any better) Don't let people's words get to you the only opinions that really matter are the people that you love and cherish like family and close friends. Also, you never know who may admire you not being afraid to express yourself. Someone may be struggling with self esteem issues or doubting who they are but you loving your uniqueness can be a shining example to embrace their individuality.
3. Find A Positive Role Model
Things like skin color, hair, weight, the way you talk, your interests, and your appearance may be the blunt of jokes now but as you grow older you'll find differences make you memorable and beautiful. People with similar interests can help you feel better about yourself because in some cases it shows you don't have to be traditionally pretty to be considered beautiful. I know everyone says this but its true "What's on the outside is not nearly as important as whats on the inside." I remember their was a quote on Tumblr that went something like this, "Beauty without intelligence and character is like a masterpiece drawn on a napkin."
4. Thank You For Being My Friend
Surround yourself with positive people. Imagine this: You and some friend are at a party then somebody brings up someone else's name then starts backstabbing them. Even more ironic the person that brought the person up is friends with the person they're backstabbing! You engage in the conversation but what makes you think they won't talk about you if you weren't there?
Choose friends that you truly know wouldn't do this. Choose friends that if people were talking about you they would defend you and not just stand by and let it happen. Also, choose friends who don't single you out, ignore you in front of certain people, or try and make you feel different because REALITY CHECK: THAT'S NOT A REAL FRIEND!!
5. Quotes Help Tooooo!
Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
forget the haters cause somebody loves ya. ✌
this too shall pass.
you taught me that it was okay to be crazy.
people are just people they shouldn't make you nervous.
success is the best revenge.
But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up Forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up
They laugh at us cause were different, we laugh at you because you're all the same.
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I hope that from reading this you can learn to love and accept yourself the way you are and not let negativity get to you. (: Sometimes when were mad or sad it can seem like everyone isn't trying to help but truthfully listen to the people you know actually love you because their fully of good intentions and want to see you succeed.
really think about your words before you speak. they can mean different things to different people. †
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